Yes they ARE all MY children

There are some people out there that are SOOO RUDE! Ok, I understand not everyone know's the whole adoption language, and don't always know the most polite thing to say. But some times, I just want to slap people.

I was at soccer the other week. And this mom I was talking too has met Terra and Chance before at playgroup, but have never meet Joe and Manny b/c they go to preschool on Mondays'. So I see her at soccer and asks which one are Joe and Manny. So I show her which one they are. And her next comment was "Where do they get their dark skin from?". I was totally taken back. Most people assume they get the darker skin from me. But even if you are curious don't ask in front of the KIDS! I didn't want to be rude, b/c I know she wasn't TRYING to rude. So I explained that they are adopted. "Oh, where did you get them?". I said we adopted from the foster care system, "oh but from WHERE?" umm, Cambridge. I think she was looking for china or Portugal or something. She didn't seem quite content with Cambridge, because you know it's in Canada. I wish I could have thought of something else to say, without coming off as rude. But I don't want and NEED to explain to everyone that my children came to me via adoption. They are just MY CHILDREN.

I was at Zerhs last week getting pictures developed. And when you get digital pictures they always put your last name and last 5 digits of your phone number. When I am printing pictures for my children's birth family I will put a different name on the back and a different phone number, but explain to them at the desk that they are really mine. Some times they will ask why, which the lady did. And I just explained that I am printing them for my children's birth family and I don't want the info on the pictures. And she's like "oh ok, so they are really your children then. They are adopted!!!!!!!" Taken aback I replied, "well yes they really are MY children". "yeah I know, but they really aren't yours, they are just adopted. That's nice of you ti give pictures to their REAL family". So I said "yes, and once we went in front of the judge we were declared the full parents and we became their real family, forever". We are just as much the parents to these children as you are to theirs" She was going to make another comment, but I just left.

I just don't get some people.